This time of the year again…

June 1, 2010 at 3:59 pm 18 comments

Sonia secured 62% in class 12th. Her dad is a CA and insisted that his daughter should take up Commerce so that she could follow his foot-steps. The girl tried very hard but unfortunately could not cope-up with the stream and ended-up securing a score which not only broke her heart but disappointed her father. Her mother came to me one day and said, “You also secured same percentage as my daughter why don’t you talk to my husband and make him understand that the interest of our child lies else where”. Well, I tried my bit but dear uncle wouldn’t budge and continued to nag the girl. Finally I got my parents to step in and they after many efforts convinced Mr. CA to give his girl a chance to pursue what she wants.

Today, Sonia is a budding fashion designer and her flair in fine arts draws attention of many. She is also preparing for BA2nd exams through correspondence. 

Okay, we all been there, done that, waiting for the board results, followed by where to apply, trying to figure out where can I make it without much grief, O god! I will never make the first, second or even the third cut off list. I have not managed to even get through to a single entrance exam; I have no quota/ category to apply for.  I have no future…
For all those who have made it to the respective dream courses, colleges- a million congratulations. For those like me, I mean the 60 percenters, the fun has just begun. No, way! I am not be sarcastic or trying to make fun of the situation but like I said I have been there and done that, so take my word on it, you too will say the same thing a few years down the line.
Come on; let’s respect the hard work we put in to get that. It is no joke; I may not have burnt the mid-night oil all year round but for sure a few months in the year. My older sibling like many of yours too was a topper in school and had set the benchmark way too high for me to even reach. So I had to come up with a plan where I don’t get pressurized with the ‘be like your sister’ syndrome or get lost amongst the brighter stars.

All we need is an action plan. I too wanted to be a lawyer, didn’t work out, then I dreamt of joining the Army- didn’t happen either, wanted to study journalism and social work, but again the quota system wouldn’t make way and my dreams sunk without a trace. I realized, not making it to the professional courses is not end of the world. I knew the door to the DU campus will never open for me and it never worried me either, I just unlatched the windows around 🙂

Sounds simple? It was for me and I had scored 64.3% in my 12th (4.3% more than what I aspired for) and yes, my parents never compared me with my sibling or other super intelligent kids of their friends.

Well, that’s history,  I studied the subjects of my choice from the college where I knew even 50 percenters are welcome with open arms ( no cut off lists here and still this is one of the best Univ’s in India) I am talking about Punjab Univ- Chandigarh. Of course they grill you in classes and the schedule is tighter than a school.

Like PU there any such options out to there to explore, all you need is an attitude to grab it!!

And a ‘cool’ soul once said, “It is obvious that a brilliant student will make it into IIT and the likes. But the thrill is for those who create a new pathway than waste their life in trying to be a ‘Me Too”

Please Note: In PU seats are limited for B.Com. Hons starts only in 2nd year and becomes an additional subject. In the fist year one needs to understand the three subjects that you have selected. If you get a good score then you are eligible for taking Hons.


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  • 1. BullsEye  |  June 1, 2010 at 4:19 pm

    Yes its that time, where children will be burdened with societal pressures and Colleges will display admission lists with unhuman cutoffs. As easy it is to say that child should should choose whatever he likes, it is sometimes forgotten that family economic conditions, responsibilities, High fees etc can deter a child to look towards an area more feasible.
    PS: Why was the PU part so vehemently empathized?

    • 2. delhizen  |  June 1, 2010 at 4:25 pm

      Because I was not made to feel I am looser just becoz I am not in the league of toppers. /Percentage is not given priority. Right to education is the criteria and they give admission to students from all walks- no bias of any sort at all!!

      And yes, I admire my college/ Univ for instilling that confidence in me that I can do it too!

  • 3. Prateek  |  June 1, 2010 at 6:14 pm

    Nicely written Pal. Everyone is good at something and comparing everyone with the same set of standards is a folly. You gave a good example and you yourself are a good example that a strong will, and a level head can take one places. My admiration of you became 10 folds after reading this. I wish someday I will have a success story like yours to share with the word. 🙂

    • 4. delhizen  |  June 1, 2010 at 6:16 pm

      Oh God, Patty… you are way too generous when it comes to prasing me…

      Pallavi come bk to Earth and let not the praise get into your head…

      Hardly a success story- but yes, I have managed to create a space for myself minus the degrees and everyone else is as capable to do so.. infact better than me.

      • 5. Prateek  |  June 1, 2010 at 7:29 pm

        And the praise is well deserved. Wrote a new post based on this. Will send a trackback 🙂

      • 6. Sapna  |  June 2, 2010 at 10:41 am

        I agree with Prateek. It is indeed a success story 🙂

      • 7. Pallavi  |  June 5, 2010 at 4:10 pm

        you guys love me a little too much…and I am only happy about it.. 🙂

        I take a bow to that Sapna !

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  • 9. Mayur  |  June 1, 2010 at 7:52 pm

    Good one Pallavi. Right topic at the right time. I watched a movie few days back on a similar topic. It was a marathi movie dealing with the flaws in the current education system.

    I never understood a thing about history. Though I loved reading it, I wondered why I should be knowing about medieval Europe when all I wanted to be was an engineer. I ended up scoring less in 10th and lost on an admission in the cream college despite scoring good in maths and science 🙂

    • 10. Sapna  |  June 2, 2010 at 11:31 am

      Why do you feel that having good marks in Maths and Science was enough?

      I strongly believe that high school is not a place for specialisation and study of humanities helps develop a well rounded personality. And very much neccessary to be considered a part of exams else nobody would give it the due importance.

      Don’t get me wrong I don’t think our education system is without flaws. I have lost out on my dream college not because I didn’t have marks but because I didn’t good enough marks.

      Now I am simply glad I studied in the college I did. It was an amazing place. And the failure to get into the top most college actually helped me keep a level head and not behave like one of those over-confident, complacent ivy league college students.

      I don’t regret not being a prt of IIT or NIE. Though I would have loved to. I still am in a great place, doing a good job, living my dream life (well almost)

      And if we say our education system is the crappiest in the world try coming up with alternate ideas that seem good to you and would suit an audience in region as diverse as India.

      • 11. Mayur  |  June 2, 2010 at 11:45 am

        I felt that way because I thought crowding our brain with unnecessary information was useless and stupid. In my opinion, gaining knowledge should be a matter of interest and not compulsion.

        Let students study what they want to study. I’m sure they will have better personalities.

  • 12. durga  |  June 2, 2010 at 7:47 am

    know what I gave up on %. What ever effort I put in I end up with 60 something. Now-a-days I am happy that i learn, be whatever % I get and in recent exams I did even try to approach for answers – while rest were copying result ? _ I got 70% they got 80%. It really doesn’t matter for me any more as long as I am happy studying and learning and extending my capabilities.

    But you know what hurts? The cut offs for admission in universities. Frankly I want to do my PHD and I have exactly same % as yours 64.3. For a PHD at IIT , I need atleast 65% :(. see marks do hurt in all ways

    • 13. Pallavi  |  June 5, 2010 at 4:18 pm

      I agree with you Mayur, you know I am pathetic when it comes to Maths.. In fact one of my teachers told my mum that your girl is a dud.. and I still remember how my mum gave a dressing down to that teacher and said, she may be bad in one subject but not challenged!

      My class-incharge teacher was most supportive. I am not ashamed to say it but the fact is I flunked all my maths exams from class 8th till 10th- only cleared the boards with 35 marks… but never did she let it come in the way. before my results came out she would get me promoted and took my case directly to the principal.

      I wonder how many are as lucky as I am.

    • 14. Pallavi  |  June 5, 2010 at 4:21 pm

      Yep, durga it hurts and it badly.. I gave-up on studies only because i realised too much push and i get nothing in the end. might as well learn things on the job and I have done way beyond books could teach me. But each line of work is diff..

      I too wish at times I had a degree to my credit, I too want to pursue an MBA but don’t think I can.. sigh!

  • 15. ray of light  |  June 2, 2010 at 6:52 pm

    i agree with mayur that studies and learning should be a matter of interest,but as sapna said that its important to have a well rounded personality.. but our education system is far from doing that.. i think to change our education system we need to train our teachers better first.. i was fortunate to study under a couple of really inspiring teachers/tutors in school,other than those most would take the life out of the subject even if it was the most interesting subject, ofcourse we need a re think of our course content too..
    and the current teachers are not an inspiring lot, cos they never had teachers to inspire them in their field of work or be passionate bout teaching as such.. so its rly a vicious cycle!

    Also i believe it doesnt matter one has not worked hard in school but importance of hardwork needs to be inculcated…life will make you work hard and struggle at some point or the other .. all school should be able to do is just give a direction to that innate potential or interest and lay a strong foundation that will not break the individual when faced with tough situations n have the patience, strength n tenacity to deal with them.

  • 16. tangyorangesour  |  June 8, 2010 at 8:30 pm

    I was asked by the HR about my scores and I don’t know what overcame me.. I promptly replied I like swimming on my sinusoidal wave 😛

    • 17. delhizen  |  June 9, 2010 at 10:55 am

      🙂 tangy you are cutest. anyway things are in place for your start your career now

      bon chance!

  • 18. Jaky Astik  |  June 13, 2010 at 12:28 am

    Think whatever, but I’m so happy you didn’t make it to any of them. Like that dialogue in Dostana ‘this is the most perfect plan of all, the Dostana of ours!’

    By the way, even my studying CA hasn’t worked that well. But, I’m trying my best. Feels like every of your posts matches with me. Or maybe this is everyone’s story. or maybe, this isn’t just coincidence.


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