June 28, 2010 at 5:53 pm 7 comments

We lived in a male dominated society, where the bread- earner (read husband) ruleD the house and had a typical mindset that he owns the woman he married. Most parents after marrying of their daughters won’t accept them back. No matter how the helpless girl was she had no choice but to live under her husband’s shadow. She was often a victim of verbal and physical abuse and her role was limited to serving her husband’s family, bear children et al. Education was not a priority and her life was confined within the walls of the house.

With time society opened up and she received education which was more than the vocational courses of ‘stitching and cooking’. She started to venture out of the house and stepped into what was till then a ‘man’s world’. Socio economic evolution for what was known as the weaker sex has turned tables and today; she is at par with him.

  • But do you agree with this statement- confidence because of the overall development has brought down the tolerance level in her over the years?
  • She has become more aware of her rights and believes in voicing her opinion. Is her individual identity not as important as her role of a family binder?
  • Is her financial independence responsible for the short-lived marriages?

My answer to the above; tolerance levels may have come down but only when she knows she has to put a foot down. If she walks out of an abusive marriage and leaves an aggressive husband, then why raise eye brows over it? She is not a liability or a burden and kudos to those parents, husbands and families which want her to grow, support her at every step, share responsibilities and give her the respect she deserves!!

And yes, rise in the divorces is due to a number of factors, blaming it on education and income of a girl is only narrow minded approach. We are still trying to break-away from the chauvinistic society. I hope every girl is as lucky as I am!

PS: this post is a result of a discussion with a group of like-minded and some educated yet illiterate set of people.


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  • 1. Prateek  |  June 28, 2010 at 6:04 pm

    I personally believe that a strong and well educated woman is more beneficial to the society than a man.
    Yes the independence of women is a reason for growing number of divorces because the men who have inflated egos are not ready to accept the fact that their lady might be more successful than them.

    I don’t think tolerane level is down. And a person has all the rights to live happily as an individual.

    But then there is also a difference between the two sexes. Men are good at somethings and women are better at others. So both should understand each others strengths and weaknesses and work togethor, not against each other.

    • 2. Prateek  |  June 28, 2010 at 6:16 pm

      I believe every individual has the right to his/her own identity. They should be given the freedom to grow and expand their wings, as they take flight.
      A lot of evil is done and is accepted in the name of tradition and family honour or any other ridiculous reason. You know what I am talking about.
      Education is a key to solve these problems. And women empowerment should come from within, not via some quota or reservation system.
      These are a bit away from the actual topic of your post but still related.

  • 3. The NRI  |  June 28, 2010 at 6:40 pm

    Interesting points.

    We also covered this general issue recently.

    What is making urban Indian women walk out on their husbands?

  • 4. BullsEye  |  July 5, 2010 at 6:03 pm

    Yes i agree that Women have had the taste of liberalization and they have started making mark in the “Men’s” world. About tolerance level, i would word it as she has become more aware of her rights and has the courage to stand up against anything wrong, I welcome this change.And i think women having her space will only make her more happy and content, which would actually led to a happy family. Whomsoever made the points under discussion to you,I really want to say to them – get well soon.

    • 5. delhizen  |  July 5, 2010 at 6:06 pm

      Well I know an Army officer who defi thinks this way… without getting into the details I shall convey your wishes to his wife… she needs them!!

  • 6. Jaky Astik  |  July 22, 2010 at 6:32 pm

    Ditch your agency and start a social work. You’re good at this. Huh, your posts are turning me patriotic. Don’t smile. I’m serious.

    • 7. delhizen  |  July 22, 2010 at 6:37 pm

      Woha! thanks Jaky didn’t know my post inspires ppl to this extent..

      BTW if I ever plan to tk up social work I don’t need to quit my agency. Both can go hand in hand..I don’t think its fair to leave one thing and start another 🙂


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