Against the tide

March 14, 2012 at 5:22 pm 9 comments

Thani says, “There could be times when a man will try to escape situations when he is expected to work towards creating a change for better. But when the tough gets going, it’s the woman who gets tougher with her efforts that play an instrumental role in bringing about a change.”

It may seem a hard-to-comprehend thought to you but I could relate to it completely the instance I heard it. When I got to know of the ‘Be The Voice Of Change’ contest, I knew exactly what I had to share.

It was not very long ago when the house-help in my parents’ house, a mother of 5, confided to my mother that she was pregnant with the 6th one. It was a typical story of drunkard husband, suppressed wife with a family that had troubles making ends meet. InIndia, we all have known at least one such case first hand. Her husband, obviously, never cared to fend for the family members. We do not even raise an eye brow when we hear a story like this, because these are the kind of stories we had been exposed to since child hood.

On learning about the maid’s pregnancy, my mother took her to a gynecologist who suggested that she wasn’t physically fit enough to go through another child bear. An abortion followed. Isn’t it ironical that it was actually a relief to let her have an abortion, given the situation in her house? Another child would have only made it more difficult to sustain. But for a woman to let go off her child..

It was a difficult time for her. We put her for counseling and she wisely opted for sterilization. But that’s when the real change happened. Amidst the trauma of abortion and what followed, which actually made her physically weak, she beamed with a new-found strength in herself. Somehow, the experience made her realize what all she can do to make the lives of her children and herself better. There was a woman who had firmly taken a few decisions.

Her daughters, apart from attending the school, took up vocational training. It was an apt choice; she didn’t want them to end up being house-helps like her. This was cycle of change which she started. We were obviously very supportive of her decision and helped her in whichever way possible, from time to time. She had taken the first step, and that was half the battle one. The maid is still working in our house, but she is now a happier person, a more confident lady. It only makes us happy that what appeared to be a painful situation made her. Her children are on their way of getting ready and groomed to apply for good jobs.

This is an idea I have been conceptualizing for some time now will be my step towards bringing around a change in our perspective towards those who come from under privileged background. I want to help them cover the distance which separates them from those who have everything going for them. I feel, vocational training should move beyond stitching, knitting, cooking, et al and it should include personal grooming, computer training, verbal  communication and other soft skills like how to talk on the phone, greet people, table manners, etc. This will not only improve their job prospects but also give a boost to their confidence, shape their personalities and make them more self sufficient.

I believe those who have seen their parents struggle are more liberated to go that extra mile to achieve success. Just like someone placed their faith in me, I want to place the same in others.

Circumstances are beyond our control but brining about a change or at least making a positive move is the power we all have within us!


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9 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Sapna  |  March 14, 2012 at 5:41 pm

    Whoa! Pal you are on a posting spree!

    The story is inspirational. From being stuck in an endless rut to taking charge of the situation and ending the cycle is a tough journey.

    True today the vocational training needs have grown beyond cooking and knitting.

  • 2. delhizen  |  March 14, 2012 at 6:29 pm

    All thanks to indiblogger for waking the blogger in me 😉

  • 3. Sapna  |  March 18, 2012 at 12:37 am

    Tagged you Pal 🙂

  • 4. Deboshree  |  March 20, 2012 at 12:14 pm

    A very direly needed initiative this Pal! Way to go… 🙂

  • 5. Vaibhav Dugar  |  March 27, 2012 at 4:21 pm

    I missed it the last time here, but your words, your posts seem to have a soul of its own..
    It’s rightfully said, you. Should write only when your hand listens to your heart.

    And yr last posts shows that.

  • 6. Seema Sharma  |  April 21, 2012 at 9:57 pm

    Very inspirational post…all the best for the contest

  • 7. mukeshrijhwani  |  May 3, 2012 at 12:17 pm

    Congratulations…. keep writing and keep winning

  • 8. blahblaholic  |  May 3, 2012 at 4:45 pm

    This is beautiful!
    Kudos to you, and your family for doing this! 😀
    And also, congrats!

  • 9. A  |  May 29, 2012 at 7:53 pm

    Well written. Very nice of your folks to help her out!


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